Okay, over time, you’ll see the amazing benefits great oral sex can have on your relationship. For now – focus on getting good at the basics. It all comes down to the fundamentals – once you master that, move on to more advanced things and become the best he ever had or will have. Oral Sex Fundamentals (1) – Relax. It’s not the end of the world if you mess up. At least you’re trying. As long as you’re trying, you’re on a good track. You’ll get better over time and practice – just like with everything else in life. Everyone fails from time to time, so stop expecting that every blow job will be perfect and that he’ll orgasm every single time. He won’t. Except if you have advanced skills. Oral Sex Fundamentals (2) Maintain eye contact from time to time and try to create a deeper connection with him. It’s all about the mind and triggering his emotions and senses. You need to undestand that you’re not only giving him head with your mouth – but your whole body. Oral Sex Fundamentals (3) Change your attitude. The most important part of oral sex, believe it or not. It’s not the “secret technique” – it’s the “right” attitude that many have a problem explaining. Oral Sex Fundamentals (4) Be more aggressive, stroke harder, suck harder, talk dirtier. Whatever you are doing so far – double it. And you’ll see instant results. Are you enjoying giving head? Double that enthusiasm. Oral Sex Fundamentals (5) Get out of your head. Thinking stuff like “oh am I good?” “is he enjoying it?” “What if I scratch him?” or “why didn’t he orgasm yet?” are all stuff that work against you. You don’t need to be in your head when giving head. Be there – in the moment. Your blow job instructor, Jack

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